Okay, I have exaggerated the title. But this week was kind of weird because it just didn’t seem like I could catch up with my friend’s party plans due to work deadlines. And while generally it would be fine, but this time the amount of pressure I faced to be at both the places was insane.
It almost caught me at a breaking point where I felt super helpless that I am not able to give time to both, my friends and my work. Obviously I stayed back for work, but would have really appreciated a supporting friend circle who would understand that at times work takes precedence.
The thing is, I have identified a friend who is super self centered and would not really try to understand the other person’s point of view or prior commitments. And this, of course creates a conflict within the group at times.
But does that mean I should stop being friends with that person? We know each other for years and I think the smart thing to do would be to still understand that people change over time and that one just has to learn to accept the evolution that a person goes through.
For all you know, he hasn’t change but my threshold has decreased. Maybe.
As we grow older, priorities change, and we all change at different rates. A supportive friend would certainly understand your work priorities. Best of luck to you.
ReplyDeleteYes, I am currently in the process of noticing this change in life choices
DeleteI appreciate your concern. Just curious. Usually a party is in the evening or night during weekend. Are you working on a evening or graveyard shift? If you don't want to reply here, please write to me. You know my email. Thanks. Regards.
ReplyDeleteNo no, my work hours are during the day, but at times there's just so much to do that I end up working late into the night.
DeleteAnd at times, I am just too tired to step out after a long work day
It is hard when friendships change.
ReplyDeleteYour friend should understand that you have other priorities and you cannot just leave work to go to a party. Good friends know that and they will not pressure you.
ReplyDeleteIt's difficult to get friends who don't change much with time...
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