“I want a guy who is witty, takes efforts, honest..” the
list went on.
“He should look good, that’s very important”
“Also the family matters”
The conversation just went on with everyone listing what
they look for in a guy.
“Do you really think you all are perfect?” I inquired.
A brief silent followed.
“All I am saying is that, we expect so much from the guys but
are we that perfect as well?”, I justified.
Somehow these days I see a lot of the female folks around me
have conditions and qualities that they want in their guy. Of course I have my
hold ups as and I wouldn’t date someone who is completely opposite to what I look
for in a guy. But always having high expectation and then cribbing that there aren’t
good guys around is unfair.
We are not flawlessly beautiful all day, we fail in the kitchen
and in other household chores (maybe some of you excel at it), we are also not
overly kind, calm and selfless like all our fairy princess, and then when we
are not perfect why are we waiting for a prince charming.
It is time to understand that no one is perfect and
relationships and love take work, a lot of work! As long as you see the person
at least trying to take effort for you then appreciate that and love that!
Under no circumstances should one settle for something or
someone, but don’t let go of someone because they have two flaws and eight
other amazing things.
That is real sensible talk. Wish every individual could do this introspect.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong in wishing for a handsome,accomplished and well employed decent guy.But one should not stipulate that a six pack filmy hero like men alone are acceptable.So long there is compatibility and other conditions are reasonably met,it is pragmatic to go ahead.There should be no major flaws. I agree with you that one should not be too choosy.
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